This is the first book that I read when the year 2013 started. I promised myself that I will trudge a new life. A life where hatred and anger will not set in. A life where I will forgive and forget the people who hurt me the most.
I went to National Bookstore and the cover of this book caught my eyes. The color is nice and the graphics is good. I am the type of person wherein if I purchase a book, the cover must also be pleasing to the eye. As I was reading the title, it occurred to me the question “Is this what I really needed?”. Then as I flipped the book, it was written in bold letters “ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM A DEEP LOSS IN YOUR LIFE?”. Then another question popped inside my head, “Am I?”. I would be hypocrite is I say no, the person I cannot fool is myself. So I grabbed my purse and went to the cashier to purchase the book.
This book tackles about all type of losses. A loved ones from a separation or divorce, losing someone because of death, may it be a family member, a wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, or a friend. It teaches you to learn to accept and move on.
The best part of the book that I like is the message:
“If you love him, set him free: If he comes back, it is because he has never forgotten you. If he does not, forget him.” However, the author has a contradicting idea and formulated his own interpretation that goes like this, “If you love someone, do not let him go without telling him of your pain, and the difficulties that his decision will cause in your life.”
If your beloved returns, do not accept him back before making sure that, during his absence, he has resolved his inner conflicts and has grown.
If your beloved has not returned, do not wait indefinetely; bid your dreams goodbye.
Life has much more in store for you. – John Monbourquette
In my own conclusion, self help books can be very helpful in times of confusion as it provides answers and realization to the questions that you have in mind. However, the best person can help you with your issue is none other than yourself. The decision will not be based on what you read or what the author says. The decision will be all yours and that would defy the life that you will walk through.